1. What’s difference between coaching and counselling?
Counselling offers emotional and psychological support and analysis, including how past events have shaped you. Coaching is much more solutions and future focused.
We all have our stories and we all carry baggage. A counsellor will work with you to unpack your suitcase, pick over every small thing inside it, analyse what they are, how they got there and what they mean in the context of your life.
As your coach, I look at you, see you have your suitcase packed and are ready for the next stage of the journey and ASK... “Where to?”
2. What can Divorce Coaching help me with?
· Coaching offers you emotional support and practical, objective guidance throughout the divorce process and beyond.
· Coaching helps you create the “best” divorce possible for you, your ex-partner and (if you have them) your children.
· Gaining clarity when you are experiencing dramatic change in multiple areas of your life. Coaching helps you overcome the overwhelm of the divorce process and reset your life afterwards.
· Managing and making sense of intense emotions, determining what’s rational and what’s an emotional response and how best to step forward.
· Support through the legal process.
· Planning for and rebuilding your life after divorce.
· Planning your work life – now and for the future.
· Money, Finance & Budgeting – understanding your personal money story, how it affects your decision making and changing it if necessary.
· Communicating with your ex-partner – keeping it civil during the process; building a new way of communicating beyond the divorce.
· Co-parenting strategies and support.
· Solo parenting tips, strategies and support.
· Supporting you to take the best care of yourself throughout the process and beyond.
· Rebuilding your self-love, self-esteem and self-care
3. What will I achieve from coaching?
You will gain an objective, emotionally supportive partner to help you navigate your way through divorce and support you to refresh and rebuild your life afterwards.
I will be your:
· Sounding Board – someone objective to bounce ideas off and share concerns with
· Clarity Consultant – I’ll help you sift through the complexities and get clear on what you need to focus on, what you want and need to do, and in what order.
· Thinking & Strategy Partner – the one you call when you need support to make a decision or get your thoughts clear on an issue.
· Accountability Partner – I will hold you gently accountable to what you say you most want during your divorce and for yourself afterwards.
· Supporter & Cheerleader – encouraging your action and celebrating your achievements.
You will have a partner to walk beside you, guiding and encouraging you to create the “best” divorce possible and to keep stepping forward to the life you most want after divorce.
4. Am I ready for coaching?
When you are:
· Committed to moving forward
· Willing to take the focus off the behaviour of your ex-partner, and focus on yourself
· Ready to change old patterns, let go of the past and embrace a new future
· Willing to prioritise YOU, define where you are, set aims around where you want to be, and commit to ACTION STEPS to get you there...
... YOU ARE READY.
5. Why Do I Need a Divorce Coach?
You are in the early phase of your divorce journey and you don’t know who to turn to or where to start. Friends and family offer support but they don’t seem to understand.
You are feeling overwhelmed by all that you need to get sorted during or post-divorce, and don’t know where to start.
You need support and guidance to sift through the masses of information you are loaded with, weed out the unnecessary, hone in on the crucial points and define your non-negotiables, all in an emotionally supportive space.
You need a clear direction and action plan to get your life back on track and build a new solo life for yourself that is deeply fulfilling.
You need to reconnect to yourself, reclaim your self-belief, rebuild your self-confidence, and self-esteem.
You need to redefine where you are, what you want from the next phase of your life and form an action plan to get there.
6. Why Should I Pay A Coach when divorce is already such an expensive process?
Working with a divorce coach during the process can actually end up saving you money.
Coaching helps you process and organise your thoughts and feelings and manage your emotions so you are less reactive, which alleviates conflict.
Less conflict means less legal intervention. Less intervention means lower expenses / legal fees.
Working on your communication strategies can help smooth the process with your ex-partner, again meaning the two of you require less legal intervention, and therefore you pay your lawyers less.
As your clarity partner, a coach can help you effectively organise your thoughts PRIOR to legal meetings, keeping them succinct and to the point, therefore less costly.
7. Can you accompany me to meetings with lawyers / mediators?
For Melbourne / Victorian based clients I can be available in-person as your support during these meetings. In some circumstances having a third party present raises issues of confidentiality, so it depends on the situation and the other party. Skype, Zoom or telephone connections are possible for clients outside of Melbourne. As your coach, my main is to support you to be fully prepared and ready for mediation or legal meetings so you can confidently navigate them yourself.